Bullying - Still a problem for kids of all ages
Bullies used to simply shake down weaker kids for money, but now the bully business has gone online, and it's booming. A 2009 survey of 2,000 primary school students by the Cyberbullying Research Center, found that 9.4 percent were recent victims of cyberbullying, while 17.3 percent claimed to be "lifetime" victims of online bullies.
Worse, a recent Harris Interactive Cyberbullying Research Report, commissioned by the US National Crime Prevention Council, stated that 81 percent of teens surveyed said they found cyberbullying funny. Yet recent information on cyberbullying shows that it can lead to depression, anxiety, even suicide.
Jacquie Ream, author of the children's book Bully Dogs from Book Publisher's Network, (www.bookpublishersnetwork.com) feels very strongly about bullies. Rather than being statistical, Ream's concern about bullying is the real life affect it has on kids.
"Bullying is present in all children's lives, whether they are male or female, teens or younger, bullies or the bullied," she said. "It reigns on the schoolyard, in the classrooms, in the hallways, on sports teams, even on the Internet. Inside and outside of the classroom, kids are coming face to face with a new enemy, one who's often their age and their size. As parents and educators struggle to reach children who are being bullied, kids often end up dealing with bullies on their own." Ream believes bullying is an ongoing issue for today's teens. She believes that parents and educators need to meet this crisis head on and give kids tools to deal with bullies. Self-confidence is one of those tools.
"It takes two for a conflict," she says. "If a child is able to boost her self confidence enough so that the bully's words no longer have affect her, that could eliminate a lot of the verbal and cyber-bullying that takes place. After all, a game only one can play is no fun. If the bully fails to have any effect on his victim, he is likely to stop." Part of the solution is for parents to become actively involved with their children,
"In homes where the parents are less than attentive or are strict disciplinarians, there is room for the cultivation of a bully or a victim," she said. "That is not to say that it won't happen in other homes as well. Bullies actually tend to have high self-esteem, contrary to popular belief, and have a low tolerance for frustration. If their role models are angry, hot tempered or physically aggressive, they can be led to believe that this is the way to deal with your frustrations. This is not always the case, but it should be a consideration." The key is to find a way to open up the lines of communication for kids who are being bullied,
Ream said. It is not easy for children to admit that they are being picked on. Being bullied can lead to loss of interest in activities, even excessive absences from school. It is up to the adults in our children's lives to help them find the tools necessary to stand up for themselves and say "stop."
"I am hopeful that children who are bullied will get the message that they can overcome their fear and find inner strength to fight back," said Ream.
Jacquie Ream, author of Bully Dogs was born in Oklahoma City, Oklahoma, and raised in San Bernardino, California. She attended college by way of writing scholarships and received her Master's degree in creative writing from the University of Washington. Jacquie has written three children's books and numerous short stories, including her most recent work, Bully Dogs. She currently lives in Seattle, Washington, with her husband. Back to Home